“There is only one success – to be able to spend your life in your own way.”
Oftentimes, when I ask people what they want, they have no idea because they’ve never really thought about it and no one’s ever asked them. If the premise of ‘what you focus on is what you get’ is true then it’s time to start thinking and focusing on what you actually want. This will give you the best possible chance of getting it and having the life you want. Also, defining what you want is a really useful exercise because how will you know you’ve got what you want if you haven’t defined what it is? If you worked through the exercises in the previous post, you will have a overall idea of what you really want in your life and what was important to you. That’s a great first step. Now it’s time to identify your specific dreams and goals (aka your ‘Bucket List’). I have listed 4 ways you can do this. Chose whichever works best for you. You might even use a combination. That’s fine. The main thing is to get started as soon as possible by getting it all out of your head and onto paper.
- A good first step is to have a ‘brain dump’ and write down all the things that come into your head. Set aside some quiet time to yourself to do this. Don’t worry about how crazy, stupid, or unlikely something might seem to you at the time, just write it down. This is a creative process so it’s important to get everything out of your head and onto paper.
- If a blank piece of paper is staring back at you, try dividing the paper into 3 columns with the following headings: BE, DO, HAVE. The headings may help you to think in terms of what you want to be, what you want to do and what you want to have.
- Some people find it easy to think about what they don’t want rather than things they do want. If this sounds like you then you could start by writing down all the things you don’t want. Then, go back to the top of the list and think of what the opposite of it would be. Is that what you want instead? If it is, write it down on a separate piece of paper and continue to do that with the rest of your list.
- List the areas of your life that are important to focus on such as health, relationships, career and write your dreams and goals under each of these.
Don’t stop or limit yourself at this point and don’t worry about spelling. You are the only person who is going to see this list so it doesn’t matter. It can take time to get the information out especially if you are new to this process. In fact, you will probably find that other ideas pop into your head over the next few days. That’s great because it’s your unconscious mind at work. Just add these to your list.